Surfing the Universe! Life will take you with it, just like the ocean. You are not in charge. Learn to get back on the board and surf. Enjoy the ride! #fantonefitness #upperwestside #nyctrainer #personaltrainer #coach #surfingtheuniverse #fitnessfun #fitnesshelps #stayinshape#
Days like this! Exercise makes one feel better. Fact is there are many things that might make one feel better, but some are beyond our control. The weather for instance. Today it’s 60 and beautiful, a great day to get out and enjoy. Tomorrow, the prediction is a winter storm warning with a possible 6-10 inches of snow. Nothing you can do about that…NOTHING. So stop complaining about those things you have no control over and workout so you feel better. Take control of your happiness. Have a great day!
Today I’m thinking about “loss” in a different way. I feel a sense of loss today that I can live with. It starts out feeling empty and for a moment it hurts. If I am still, that moment passes. If I don’t try to hold onto it, it goes rather quickly. On the other hand, if I want to keep that feeling of loss, I can create attachments that keep it with me. For example, I feel the loss of a relationship and it hurts for a moment. That feeling is sadness in my gut. I begin to cry and that experience starts to tell me things like I’m losing a part of myself, I’m never going to have another relationship, I will be so alone, I have failed. I ask myself, what have I done to deserve this. That kind of reaction will undoubtedly create more pain and sadness.
But, as I said, I am experiencing loss in a different way today. It’s more like this; I am feeling sadness over the change in my relationship, I breathe and start to cry. Crying is, in my opinion, one of they truest forms of expression there is, so I am going to enjoy this cry. My heart is full, not empty, if I am crying. It feels full! I am letting out the pain of this loss. Is it pain? Yes, it hurts. I feel suddenly alone. Wait. I like being alone. I do. It allows me to reflect on the beauty of my life, which, if I look back at it I realize that the challenges I have faced in my life have always forced me to grow in ways I otherwise might never have. Now that feels less sad. In fact the feeling I now have is gratitude. I am grateful for all of the sad times and the losses in my life because they have given me growth. I have grown considerably over the course of my life, but never as much as when I have been hurting. I am grateful.
This is a true story. Life isn’t good, or bad. Life is Life. How I choose to experience life dictates the quality of my life. Deepak Chopra has a quote I use to remind me of this. “Because I accept life as life, in my world, nothing ever goes wrong.” I am grateful today. I am happy.